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#25 - The mystery is where all the juice is: cultivating the beginners mind
In this episode, we talk about cultivating beginners mind and how nobody is just how they are. We talk about how you get to be so many different you's in your lifetime...
#24 - Shiloh hates hugs or What are your core values?
In this episode we talk about Shiloh's creepy-ass house, Lily moving out, and how life is all transitions. We dive in to all things core values, including examples of ...
#23 - we all live in a pie: cohabiting in polyamory
In this episode we look at cohabitation! We explore what each number might need when sharing space with others. You will get a glimpse at what our own polycule cohabit...
#22 - Blabbing on about security, part 2
In this episode, we have more tips and tricks to navigate security in polyamory. We talk about the challenges that might trigger the insecurity, specific strategies to...
#21 - Finding security when polyamorous things are happening (part 1)
There was so much good info for this one that we had to split it into 2 parts!! This week we will go over how polyamory brings up insecurity AND security and then we ...
#20 - Striving feels pokey in my soul
In this episode, we talk about contentment vs striving in relationships. We figure out how to find out if you are over-striving or over-contenting and what you can do ...
#19 - Vagina time with Shiloh, Emily is in her exploration phase
In this episode we have special guest Emily on to talk about her and Kellie's new polyamorous adventures. We'll talk about exactly what they've been up to and why, and...
#18 - wordage of affirmation and other love styles
In this episode we talk about love languages vs. love styles and how they intersect and overlap with Gottman's 7 principles for making relationships work. We want you ...
#17 - Salves, ointments & a splooge of feelings
In this week's episode we talk about using journaling as a processing tool for some of the sticky emotions brought up by your out-of-the-box relationships. We give you...
#16 - Keep Your Cookie Batter in your Bowl: Relating Goals 2025
Where we learn that YOU deserve brownie batter too, you get to lick the sides and lest you think that this entire goal episode is about brownies, that when you move yo...
#15 - Point your long gray finger somewhere else
In this episode we are going to be going through all the numbers to discuss what each one might need in order to have a fulfilling and fun poly holiday experience! We ...
#14 - Take care of your candy, 7s!
In this episode, we talk about outgoing fun-loving 7s. Also known as the Enthusiast. We discuss how everyone's lost childhood message is still hidden inside of them, a...
#13 - A 6 would have saved the Titanic
Join us in this episode as we interview Kellie's wife, Emily, and do a deep dive on enneagram number 6! We talk about how Emily is scared, the polycule is recruiting f...
#12 - Go Feed Your Polyamorous Baby
In this episode we do a deep dive into 5s, the observer. We discover that 5s are energy conservationists, very equanimous (maybe this word is made up), objective, and ...
#11 - I Love You. Don't Leave Me. Okay, BYEEEEEEE!
Join us this week as we deep dive into Enneagram #4. We will be talking to our special guest Alyssa and getting in to all the dirt on needing to feel special, when hik...
#10 - Poly Camping and Meeting the 'cule
In this episode we are on location in beautiful Pioneer, CA for our 3rd annual poly ‘camping’ trip! And we introduce all of our weirdos!
#9 - Action-Packed Compliment Sandwich
In this episode, We learn what a paragon is, decide that we might have openings in the family for enneagrams 3, 4, and 8, and why you need a 3 to calendar for your pol...
#8 - Broken Birds, Dry Cups, and "Special" Friends
In this episode of Can We Get Your Number, we do a deep dive into Kellie's number - Enneagram 2. We'll get in to why she wants to be loved by the world, the torture of...
#7 - The frosting wasn't on the ultrasound!
Number one this week, we do a deep dive into Enneagram number one. Our special guest is Randy J. Warner, the podcast producer and Mr. Shiloh. We talk about frosting, W...
#6 - Nines are Horcruxes
In this episode, Kellie and Shiloh do a deep dive into Enneagram 9. Shiloh is the resident 9 and she gets in to all the details on what it's like to be a peacemaker. S...